I am back from Europe

Hello my lovely readers

I am finally back to give you all an update.

I have been in Europe for a little while and unable to access my blog as I have been having too much fun, that fun was completely destroyed when I returned home from my holiday (in which I swam most days, ate cautiously and hardly snacked) to find I have gained 4lbs!!!!

I'm so angry with myself :(

I have been struggling to keep a handle on my anxiety - I had a few anxiety attacks while there, I am just fed up with myself. I am sure I will get back on track, but until I do I am going to restrict and eat mindfully.

Peace out!

Out of Control

Hello my lovelies J
 

Today’s intake.

Breakfast: Special K (20g) with Skimmed milk (100ml) – 146cals

Lunch: Tomato and Grilled Pepper Cup a Soup – 85cals

Dinner: (not had yet but I am thinking carrot/celery sticks and some hummous)

 

Water: 2/10 glasses

 

Things have been a bit up and down for me recently, I am trying desperately to accept my body and not fall back into the deep depression I have managed to kind of pull myself out of, but I am finding it very very hard at the moment.

I am trying not to deny myself anything I want, and trying to enjoy what I am having but it is getting harder and harder. Restriction for me leads to binges, and binges lead to purging so I don’t want to fall back down that slippery slope.

I am huge though, I think I am in (BMI) Obese II at the moment, so I feel like a whale. I haven’t had a lot of money so I have been trying to eat on the cheap, but cheap food isn’t really that good for you L

Things are good at home though, apart from the fact that I am struggling with my motivation to do anything. I just want to sit and relax which isn’t helping me.  I need to kick myself up the bum and get myself back in gear.

I am going to set my alarm for 6:15 am in the morning with the intention of getting my arse out of bed and going to the gym to get some early morning cardio in…. How can I force myself to do it?

Feeling a bit unsure.

So. Ive been absent for a while again while I worked on trying to accept myself. Everything seemed to be going well for quite a while... But things always take a turn and make me feel like shit.

Ive made friends at work. Two people on particular I was close to, I had a Week off on leave for my birthday and when I came back they're being "different" with me. 

I've always kept their confidence and been there for them, and now the connection just isn't there anymore. It's bringing me down a bit.

I'm trying to have the mindset of, other people don't validate your happiness, you need to be happy with yourself first.

But this is really bothering me.

It's making me feel a bit shitty if I'm honest.

Anna xx

I've fallen down the rabbit hole...

I am feeling quite high today, Im in a good mood, I feel like I am in a good place, BUT.

I've started fasting/restricting again. It was inevitable, it was always going to happen again.

SW: 1st June,  288.8lbs

4th June 284lbs.

I had a fast day yesterday. I limited myself to 151cals throughout the whole day. Today I will mainly be eating fruit. (I have an apple a Satsuma and a Banana with me). So I should manage a sub 200 day today again.

Update - June 1st 2015

My oh My!!! ITs been months since I last posted on here - life just flies by doesn't it, and we are just here to enjoy the ride (or not enjoy it)...

Since I last updated here I have officially regained all of my weight I had lost. I am 4lbs off my HW and not very happy about it. I am now starting again fresh - I have had my fun (binging on whatever I wanted) and now I am here to stay... here to lose weight.

I am starting a June challenge. I have set myself a target of not binging outside of my meal and snack times, and I also want to lose 8.8lbs. This will bring me back to 280...

I have has a meal plan devised by a Personal Trainer and I am hoping that if I follow it I will be able to stop the late night snacking on shit, anyway - I'm going to update you all now. If anyone would like to view this diet plan then let me know and I will upload it.

Work
Things with work are going really well, I am getting more and more confident and I have made some friends that I am hoping I will keep for a long time. I get the impression its a bit one sided with some people, like I will go out of my way for them, but they don't do the same for me. The company I am working for lost some major contracts so it looks like we will be transferred to a new employer at some point towards the end of this year or beginning of next, so we will just see from there.

Home
Things at home are good, My OH (Other Half) and I are in a really good place, we are in looove :) and I love being in Love with him!! We almost split over Christmas but that has all changed now and we are in a really good place which I am happy about. My dogs are both good, though my bitch is in heat at the moment, we are going to have to get her spayed at some point soon as she keeps having Phantom Pregnancies. Some douche bag drove into my car last week too so I need to get it repaired this week.

Health
I am not quite sure how I am, my anxiety has been worse over the last few months than it has been in a while, but I am coping with it. I had an abnormal smear test last year, so I am having to have further testing done on that. I am also being tested for PCOS (Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome) which I am not to thrilled about, but who knows, it would explain a lot, but I am not there yet.

ED
Eating Disorder wise I have been stuck in a binge cycle for around 4 months. I am hoping to follow the meal plan that my PT has written for me for the next 3/4 weeks and I am hoping it will kick start my weight-loss so that I can get back on track again, as I am really not happy at the moment.

Things are changing...

Hello my lovelies!!!

So since I last posted I have joined the gym. I've been eating clean and I have lost 7lbs in 7days :-)

I've been having my overnight oats with flaxseed for breakfast.

Rice cakes with whole earth peanut butter for lunch..

Chicken/steak with veggies or salad for tea.

In between I've been snacking on grapes and celery sticks/carrots.

I'm so happy and I'm so on track. I had a horrendous binge period that lasted about two weeks and I gained 7lb. I've lost that this week alone. looking forward to getting thinner and leaner :-)

I have been struggling with my anxiety tells. Skin picking etc. but I'm hoping a clean diet will help me improve on this xx but on a more personal note my b/f and I are working things out :-)

Speak soon ladies.

Sluggish

Sluggish

1.    slow-moving or inactive.

2.    lacking energy or alertness.

This is precisely how I feel today. In fact I have been feeling like this for over a week now. Tired, lethargic and rundown are also words I would use to describe how I feel.

I had a night out a few weeks ago, during the course of the evening I ended up being grabbed by another woman and I think this has caused damage to the lower part of my back. It aches constantly – I’d put the pain at about a 4/5 but it never stops, even when I am sat down/resting it’s just constantly there. Every now and then I get these jolts of pain, I’d say these are a 7/8 and it feels like the flabby a part of skin on my hips (love handles) is being torn or burnt with a flame, these take my breath away and often make me gasp or cry out in pain. The Dr thought it could be Kidney stones, but alas, I am now assured it isn’t. But that doesn’t help with the pain I am feeling.

My boyfriend of 6 years was due to move out last week after lengthy discussions on what we want out of life, he decided he wanted to fight for our relationship, so has decided to stay in the house with me so that’s a huge weight off. But lately I have found myself binging. It feels like I have a black hole in my chest/stomach and I can just eat and eat. I don’t feel full I literally just eat, find something else and then something else. The reason I am mentioning this is because I haven’t purged in well over 9 months, and I am scared I am going to start again.

I feel at a loss at the moment, like I am just surviving but not living, which makes me sad. I have so much I want to do in life but I don’t have the funds or the motivation to do it. At the same time, I know no-one else will do it for me, so I’m just coasting through life in neutral and it’s all my own fault.

The things I want out of life are: -

• To be thin – to lose weight and be happier in myself.
• To do some A Levels – I really want to apply my brain and further my education, I want to study Biology, Chemistry and Physics at A Level. However for an Adult in employment like myself, my only options are to study from home, and each A Level costs around £330. I don’t have enough money to do them.
• To decorate my house – This also costs money that I don’t have at the moment.
• To do a military fitness army style assault course – I’d need to get fit and it costs money to enter.
• To be a mum – I want to have children, however I am not sure my boyfriend does.

They seem really attainable, but they aren’t to me. I am stuck in this routine of getting paid, bills going out and then struggling through for the rest of the month, I don’t see any way out of this repetitive cycle.

So I am just meh, coasting, sluggish, lethargic. Am I worthy of any of the above?

I am sick

I feel sick with myself. I'm such a huge mess. I managed to get under 270 over Christmas and now I am back at 274.4. Fuck this. I need to loose. I've just written my commandments to live by and I will not deviate from them.

My ultimate priority is weight loss. I'm sure the fact I'm so fat is causing my body to hurt and ache more than a regular person. So I'm not going to allow myself to gain anymore. It's just a joke how much I hate myself, I've allowed myself to get this way.

I feel like I need to regain control of this urge to binge and snack. I will regain control. I will not allow my lazy fat self to continue this way. I'll be dead at 40 if I continue to gain at this rate.

No more.

Sorry I have been away!!!

I have been away for a week or so, so apologies for not updating. I found it really hard to stay motivated while I was away because of the amount of time I was spending on my own. I was away for the best part of two weeks on a residential training course. I gained around 4lbs in that time, which is the worst part about my time away, having to eat out every night or buy convenience food. Ick.

Anyway, I am back on track and attempting to get back to 272. Im hoping I can be there by Sunday.

I am still loving my job and the people I work with, minus a few trouble causers, but that can’t be helped. You get trouble causers everywhere.

I have been looking at prices for Gym memberships as I am looking forward to getting back at the gym. I am also going to dedicate half an hour a night to sit ups/press ups, squats and lunges (with a kettlebell), see if I can change my shape and conditioning a bit in the mean time. I have been taking progress pics, but I am still to ashamed to share them.

This morning I weighed in at 274.4lbs, my next GW is 260… I hope to make I there early in the new year if not sooner.  I am also taking a bit of extra time to look after myself, do my nails and my hair. My anxiety is well managed at the moment so although I am having the odd blip I am doing good! I am struggling a bit with my relationship. Feeling very underappreciated. We keep arguing about silly things, well its not so much an argument as me getting blamed for stuff. I have got the point where I am beginning to lose faith now. This time last year I’d have just taken the verbal battering, but now I know I don’t deserve it so I am sticking up for myself. It is still very painful. But I wouldn’t take that kind of shit off anyone else. So yeah. I am thinking more about ME now. Which is something I have never done before.

Updates as always will be as and when I get chance. If you know any good workouts for core strength let me know, as I am trying to tone my flubber at the moment.

Health scare...

I feel shocking today. I had my results through from the Dr’s that my smear test is abnormal. So now I have had a biopsy and I am going to have to wait a further 4-6weeks to see if the changes indicate cancer. Since I had the biopsy I have been eating more than I do normally. It is more the stuff that I wouldn’t normally eat, like chips, sweets and chocolate bars.

That being said, because of that I haven’t actually weighed in this morning, I feel fatter than normal, and more bloated, the specialist has told me that it is normal to feel this way, and that it could last for a couple of weeks. I am due on my period anyway, so that’s going to be fun this month as it may be heavier.

I am trying to be more positive still. I am trying to be a bit more “self loving” too, so doing things like moisturising and painting my nails etc… Though I have been a bit slack on this of late; I have not been showing myself “enough” kindness, just the bare minimum. In the spirit of looking after myself I had some rice crispies for breakfast and a lunch meal from the shop for lunch. Now I feel so bloated and sick :X

I just don’t think I can cope with a normal eating pattern. Not after living the way I have for so long… I have been reading up about diets for different Zodiac signs, I have always believed in horoscopes as mine seem to be extremely dead on. I am a Cancer, I was born on the cusp of Gemini… check this quote out…. Tension, anxiety, and emotional stress are the leading causes of illness among Cancerians.

I suffer with anxiety, depression and my weight is high due to emotional eating…

Weigh in

On sunday I weighed in at 274.6lbs, the lowest I have been since well over a year ago. Unfortunately I have had a health scare which resulted in me binging yesterday and I am up 3lbs this morning, but, I will get it off by the weekend I hope. I have been looking at a food blog http://www.eat-yourself-skinny.com/ and I have to admit I am very excited about trying some of the recipes.

I watched Starving in Surburbia on Sunday morning and I have to say I am not sure what the fuss was about... It doesn't really give a true reflection of some pro ana sites. I know that some of these sites are really bad, and they show the worst side of pro ana. It made me wonder whether people really understand the difference between pro ana and pro anorexia.

Pro Ana - Is a community of sufferers that DO NOT wish to recover at this point in their life. In these communities people share their concerns plans and daily gripes with a community of people who suffer with an ED. They do not give tips or tricks, they do not encourage Eating Disorders and in my experience they would never "teach" someone to develop an ED as they see ED's as a psychological illness and not a "diet".

Pro Anorexia - Is a community of people who worship ana. They share tips/tricks to help each other become "better" at hiding their ED's and they also allow people who do not have ED's to join.

I think it is difficult to separate the two as they are so close. But in my opinion pro ana sites are there as away of getting support from people who have similar issues, and again in my experience they offer information on Recovery and Support. Pro anorexia sites do not.

I would say that I am pro ana (not pro anorexia), but the media have labelled the pro ana community as the worst of the worst. I am aware that my disorder is a psychological disease. I am aware that my ideal bodyweight is low, and by other means unattainable. But I am not ready to recover at the moment, as sad as it sounds, I don't feel sick... I don't feel ill enough or thin enough to need to recover.

I am not sure if this makes sense but over the years I have met some people I will consider to be lifelong friends via pro ana sites. But I would never give tips or tricks to people. Its sick and wrong.

How does this work??

I am really quite distressed today. Ive been restricting properly for well over a week and my weight is still not shifting. This isn’t like me at all. My body is broken!! I am not taking any supplements, just Aquaban and Adios Max. So there are no hidden calories there. I had a bit of a binge on cookies last night, but that can’t account for 1.6lbs…!!!! What is going on with my body…. I set myself a target of losing 18lbs by January 1^st, that is easily attainable for me, as I am at a higher weight. But this is a joke. I cant even get below 275lbs… what the hell?

This is starting to really bother me, I don’t like being fat, I don’t want to be fat. I am eating most days around 700cals and I am GAINING weight?? How is that even possible?

I give up trying to understand my body. Genuinely!!

At the moment I feel trapped inside my own body. Like I can’t breathe or concentrate on anything else… I hate feeling this way!!

 

I need a cig!!

Weight Loss Equivilants...

I love these, they help you visualise a little more, just how much weight you've lost.

1 pound = a Guinea Pig
1.5 pounds = a dozen Krispy Kreme glazed donuts
2 pounds = a rack of baby back ribs
3 pounds = an average human brain
4 pounds = an ostrich egg
5 pounds = a Chihuahua
6 pounds = a human’s skin
7.5 pounds = an average newborn
8 pounds = a human head
10 pounds= chemical additives an American consumes each year
11 pounds = an average housecat
12 pounds = a Bald Eagle
15 pounds = 10 dozen large eggs
16 pounds = a sperm whale’s brain
20 pounds = an automobile tire
23 pounds = amount of pizza an average American eats in a year
24 pounds = a 3-gallon tub of super premium ice cream
25 pounds = an average 2 year old
30 pounds = amount of cheese an average American eats in a year
33 pounds = a cinder block
36 pounds = a mid-size microwave
40 pounds = a 5-gallon bottle of water or an average human leg
44 pounds = an elephant’s heart
50 pounds = a small bale of hay
55 pounds = a 5000 BTU air conditioner
60 pounds = an elephant’s penis (yep, weights more than his heart!)
66 pounds = fats and oils an average American eats in a year
70 pounds = an Irish Setter
77 pounds = a gold brick
80 pounds = the World’s Largest Ball of Tape
90 pounds = a newborn calf
100 pounds = a 2 month old horse
111 pounds = red meat an average American eats in a year
117 pounds = an average fashion model (and she’s 5’11”)
118 pounds = the complete Encyclopedia Britannica
120 pounds = amount of trash you throw away in a month
130 pounds = a newborn giraffe
138 pounds = potatoes an average American eats in a year
140 pounds = refined sugar an average American eats in a year
144 pounds = an average adult woman (and she’s 5’4”)
150 pounds = the complete Oxford English Dictionary
187 pounds = an average adult man
200 pounds = 2 Bloodhounds
235 pounds = Arnold Schwarzenegger
300 pounds = an average football lineman
400 pounds = a Welsh pony

Monday morning blues....

I wish… I really do… Today is a hard one for me. I have been awake since 2:30am, I woke with crippling stomach pains and ended up sitting on the loo for about half an hour. After 3 days of constipation, I ended up with the runs so bad. The worst part is I am sat there thinking, well this should give me a good weight loss in the morning.

I started my weekend on Friday night by popping over to a friends and drinking a bottle of wine with her. I realised when I returned home around 9pm I had not eaten? Awesome, right? Wrong. I ended up binging when my BF ordered a take out. Saturday/Sunday I barely left the house, I played solid computer games. My stomach bloated, I didn’t want to eat much as I was so backed up.

Well that changed overnight, I have been avoiding using Lax as I don’t want to slip into that routine again, it took me forever to get my BM back into a regular pattern after last time. Anyway 2:30am, I woke with spasms and pain in my lower abdomen, painful to the point I almost vomited, and almost cried.

So this morning when my alarm went off I was exhausted. So sooo tired. It is also freezing!! Like mega cold, it is well and truly winter now!!

I have signed up to The Biggest Loser Challenge on a forum I visit. I am looking forward to kick-starting my weight loss again and I am using this challenge to do just that. I am in the Obese 2 (Morbidly Obese category) I am disgusted with myself. I took some photos yesterday that show me at 278.2lbs, My HW is 293…. So about 15lbs heavier. I don’t feel able to share them because I am so ashamed L  The next weigh in for the challenge is this Sunday.

My plan for today is to have a Fluids day, so hot drinks, cold drinks and soup. No chewable food will pass my lips.

The price of restricting

Urgh, I am having bowel problems… in that I can’t poop. I have been taking in <1000cals for days now and the dreaded constipation has set in. I can’t go on like this. So I am considering either a liquid fast or using Laxatives, though I am scared of using the latter, as I have abused them in the past and I know how easy and fast it is to get hold of them.

Due to the above, despite my low intake, I have gained 0.8lbs… I am heart-broken, I really wanted to go into the weekend on a loss.

I have recently joined MPA, which I have been dipping into and I am taking part in a month long competition starting on Sunday 9^th. I am going to be competing with around 6 other people, all in the Obese2 Category, the aim is to lose weight, the person with the highest % of weight lost wins… I need to do this. I need to be in a good position. I can’t accept failure. Don’t worry my PAO lovelies, I am not going anywhere.

I’m tired. I will try and get an update on over the weekend.    

What am I sick and Tired of?

So I was asked on a forum I moderate “What are you sick and tired of”… Well, I could probably go on forever but I will try and keep it short and sweet.

I am sick and tired of feeling like I am a thin person trapped in a FAT body. I am in my late twenties, and still, I can never remember a time when I was actually happy with my figure. As a teenager, all of my friends were thinner than me and it made it really stand out, that I was so much taller, bigger and heavier than they were. I was always the one who defended my friends, and told bullies that if they wanted my friends, they’d have to go through me first. I still am that person to this day. That made me a target for bullies until someone actually took me up on the offer and I floored them. So high school for me wasn’t as bad as primary school. Anyway… still to this day, I’m bigger than ALL of my friends. I don’t have one friend that I can share clothes with or that I can say is bigger than me.

I am sick and tired of being tired ALL the time, no matter what I do I can never get through a day without yawning, without coffee I am like a zombie.

I am sick and tired of losing weight and then regaining it. Last year I lost 50+lbs, I was the happiest I had been in a long time. I was then forced to access ED services to recover. I went weekly to sessions, saw my GP monthly for blood test, but apart from being anaemic I had no health problems related to my ED. I was told that because of the length of my disorder, it would take a while for my body to readjust, and that while in the short term I would gain weight, in the long term I would end up losing. Bullshit! 12 months later I am almost back up to my HW. I promised myself that would never happen and here I am!! Never again!!! What makes it worse is that although I have managed to stop my self-induced vomiting, I still binge…

I am sick and tired of being poor. I am a homeowner, I am an employee and I am a girlfriend. The amount of money I spend on bills alone eat (pun intended) the majority of my wage. Then on top of that there is transport, food, pet care, laundry – it’s a joke. My money never lasts the month and I always find myself borrowing of family. It’s not fair. My home isn’t in the best area, there is a lot of work needs doing before I can consider selling up and moving home. But if I can never make money last the month how am I supposed to afford to make the repairs that are needed?

I am sick and tired of paying for prescriptions. £8.10 per item now, and I am on two medications for my depression and anxiety. That’s £16.20 a month. I pay a lot of tax, I pay National Insurance Contributions and I pay into a pension.  I have never once had a free prescription in my Adult life.

I am sick and tired of being me. Of waking up every morning feeling ok, then all of a sudden it hits me, I am me, I am depressed, I have anxiety, I have an eating disorder. From then it’s a run to the bathroom to try and poop (most of the time I am constipated from restricting). Then a jump on the scales, and then the number that shows denotes how I feel for the rest of the day. If I have gained, it tends to lead to a binge because of how ashamed I am, and how shitty I feel. If I have lost, I try and keep it up to lose the next day too.

I wish I could just wake up and this all to have been a nightmare... but it isn't, it's my life.

All Hallowed out.

I hope everyone had a Happy Halloween!!! I went to visit my friend on Friday and as she has two toddlers it was awesome to see the effort that had been made in decorating the house.  I love Halloween, it is the only time of year I think I fit in, because at heart I am still the Goth I was as a teenager.  There are a few things I absolutely love in life and they are Skulls, Skeletons, Horses, and all things associated with Rock Music… and I mean old skool rock music, Nine Inch Nails, AC/DC and Motley Crue style!!!

That being said I didn’t go to the Halloween Party I was invited too. Instead I stayed in (on my own) and watched X Factor!!! I am so Rock and Roll, my friends would crucify me if they knew!!! I just couldn’t face it. Like every event so far this year, the only one I actually turned up for was my leaving do, and no – one else (except my bestie) turned up for that. I have spent the weekend wallowing in my own filth and playing World of Warcraft. The only person I have made the effort to see is the friend I mentioned above.

This is mainly due to my ED… I have noticed that as I got more involved with my ED around 2 years ago I have drastically changed my social life. Gone is the girl who used to go out 2/3 times a week, cinema, karaoke nights, clubs, pubs… I don’t get my hair done anymore, it’s about 18 months since I had it coloured/cut, not even a trim.

Again, this is mainly due to my ED, I don’t socialise. I literally wake up, work, go home, cook then telly, reading or gaming. I kind of miss my old social life, but at the same time I don’t remember it!

Anyway. My plans for November.

November.

• No Alcohol.
• No Pastry.
• No Bread.
• No Chips.
• No Takeaway food.
• No eating in my car.
• No Snacking between meals.

I have managed this before. In fact my diet got pretty strict and I stuck to it, in around 6 months I lost 50lbs. I aim to double that this time!! I am going to ban certain foods permanently, so will be adding a banned food list to my blog too.

The Power of Positive Thinking

I am trying to be a bit more positive at the moment, and not let my binging get me down.  I am currently 4 days binge free :) and very happy about that. So I am going to share my theory with you all and hope that maybe it will help you overcome any punishments you have devised for if you binge. When I am having a bad day, I want to binge and then it becomes a downward spiral. I'm sad so I binge then I binge because I am sad.

I used to be really hard on myself if I binged. I would purge with use of diuretics, laxatives and vomiting. I have also been so tormented that I have self-harmed. It’s not something I am proud of. In fact my ED is not something I am proud of, it makes me do things that no normal person would do and makes me feel things that normal people don’t feel.  So I could never be proud of that.

But I am proud of myself at the moment, and this is why.

In the past, if I had binged and subsequently gained, I used to have this period of time where I would punish myself by “just giving in”. I would stop actively trying to lose weight, I would stop looking after myself (leave my hair greasy, not paint my nails, not shave my legs etc…) and I would also eat anything and everything that I thought I wanted (take-away, fast food, sweets etc.) and I would eat them in bulk. This is how over the course of 4 days ill I managed to put on almost 5lbs.

I have since last week (and I know it’s a short period of time) decided that I am going to look fondly upon my relapse last week, and use it as a motivator.  In the past, after a week like last week I could have gone months in that cycle, but I haven’t. By changing my outlook I have managed to shake off the negativity and lose over half of what I gained already.

Every day is a new day, some days I wake up and hate myself, some days I think my hair looks ok, some days I feel revolting. But regardless of those feelings, I know that if I take each day as it comes and try to look at things with a positive spin instead of a negative one, then maybe I will be more successful in my weight loss journey.

So, that being said, here are a couple of thoughts around things that are important to me, and that affect me on a daily basis.

Binging – I now look at a binge like this. It’s A binge. Just a binge. I will not let this binge beat me. If I let it beat me I will only let go of all the hard work I have put in.  I may have gained 5lbs, but I am going to lose more than twice that just to show the binge that I can. My advice is if you have a binge, be it a big one, a little one or one that spans a week. Instead of letting the negative swallow you whole (pun intended), break the binge cycle by reminding yourself of how amazing you are, how you will not let a binge define you, and that one blip does not change who you are. Write it down, close it off and start fresh from the next day.

Bullies/Cheaters and Bitches – A lot of my friends are going through problems with people in their lives at the moment, because people they love/like are being unfair, bullying them, or cheating on them and ultimately  it’s upsetting the people I care about, as they don’t understand how people can be so callous/cruel. My advice in this situation is that you cannot change another person. Everyone is different and your morals/beliefs are not the same as other peoples. Just accept the fact that if John wants to cheat on Jill with Julie, then he is going to, and if Julie is going to have an affair with John, it certainly says more about the type of people John and Julie are than the type of person Jill is. Surround yourself with the people you trust and care about, keep the John’s and Jill’s of the world at arms length. I can count my real friend, the people I trust with my life on one hand (and I am in my late twenties).  It’s amazing how drama free my life is because of this.

Whats a Good/Bad day to you?

I am very lethargic today again; feeling low; yet able to continue on with my life. I am trying to get to grips with “me”. I keep having really vivid terrifying nightmares. I have had some recently where I am being chased/attacked and I have woken up screaming out for help, or actually scratched my BF or hit him while I have been asleep. I have always had wild dreams, but not nightmares. I have never woken up shouting or screaming/hurt anyone before.

At worst I hate myself and just want to give up ( I am not suicidal anymore like I have been in the past). It isn’t that I want to give up on life. I just want to give up thinking that I will ever be happy with myself, or that I will ever change. Because all I seem to do is fail to achieve my goals or my desires. I would say that this is how I feel around 30% of the time at the moment. Sometimes (like last week) the negativity just takes over and I am like “Fuck it, I’m a whale, I’m never going to change, nothing works so I may as well just fill myself with whatever I want”. Now I know this is the main reason I am the way I am. But this is what I fight with on a daily basis.

At best, I feel positive and KNOW in my heart of hearts that this isn’t the end, I don’t have to give up and to make changes I have to make them. I know to choose a healthy over the stodgey calorie laden foods that I sometimes eat for comfort. Like yesterday, I sat with 9 colleagues in a pub, out of the 9 of us I was the only one who didn’t order Pie, Chips and Peas. I had a Cajun Chicken Breast with salad (it also came with chips which I wasn’t expecting.  So I ate all of the salad, picked at the chicken and left the chips… The Pie looked so nice; and if I hadn’t been feeling good yesterday I would have had it. But I was feeling positive; I’d made an effort to look nice, so I took care of what I ate too.

So I guess that is my definition of a good day and a bad day… What is yours?

I am going to have a Prawn Salad for tea and spend some time watching a few programmes, clean the house, shower, put some clothes and books in bags for charity shop and wrap a package to post out tomorrow. I need to start clearing my house out of all of the old shitty stuff I don’t need to keep any more.  Onwards and upwards, time to tidy out and live a lot cleaner than I have been doing.